Part I: Toward an integrated model of human development -- 1 The development dilemma -- 2 The reciprocating self: a trinitarian analogy of being and becoming -- 3 Reciprocating relationships -- 4 The reciprocating self and development theory -- The reciprocating self and relation developmental systems paradigm: seeking a common ground based on relationality -- part II: Lifespan stages -- 6. Infancy: the emergence of the reciprocating self -- 7 Childhood the reciprocating self goes to school -- 8 Adolescence: more reciprocity than you think -- Emerging adulthood and young adulthood: the solidifying of the reciprocating self -- 10. Middle adulthood: the generativity of the reciprocating self -- 11 Late adulthood: the senescing of the reciprocating self -- Part III: Building the scaffold: applications for ministry -- 12 Special issues in human development: morality -- 13 Reciprocating spirituality -- 14 Turning steeples into scaffolds: the reciprocating religious community